How To Express Love Without Sex

 

When in an dating relationship, as it progresses and
feelings grow stronger, the two involved eventually
express a desire to demonstrate, or prove their sincere
love for one another.  A lot of times it’s the man
who initiates this desire in wanting to take the relationship
to another level in the form of having sex.

However, as Christians, we are not to engage in sex before marriage,
but that doesn’t mean you can’t take your relationship to a deeper,
more intimate level in other ways.

There are many ways to express that you love someone without
having sex.  One of those ways is spending quality time with the
other person getting to know their dreams, goals, and desires and
taking and active role in helping make them come to pass.

As you spend time with the person, be sure you’re dating
to encourage dialogue and collecting data about them
(as I often say, date to collect data).  Find out where they are
now, and where they plan to be 3-5 and even 10 years from now.

If they have a certain aspiration that they’re working on right now
(for instance, if he’s starting a small business on the side) take
an active role in his vision by offering to assist in any way, even
if it’s assisting with assembling paperwork, making phone calls to
potential clients, or proofreading documents.  The more actively
involved you are not only in the other person’s life but also their
dreams (which is tied to who they are as a person) the closer
and more intimate you become with one another – without
having sex.

“I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the
swift, nor the battle to the strong…” Ecclesiastes 9:11a

Be sure and run your race together.

Kim Brooks, author of, How To Date and Stay Saved, and, He's Fine...But is He Saved? www.kimontheweb.com

Is it Your Season To Date?

Watch Video Webisode 3 as Kim talks about Christian Dating and due seasons

Kim Brooks, author of, How To Date and Stay Saved, and, He's Fine...But is He Saved? www.kimontheweb.com

Bishop Hezekiah Walker Gives His Take on How To Date and Stay Saved

I had the pleasure of interviewing Bishop Hezekiah Walker about his take on the subject of my new book, How To Date and Stay Saved. Watch Video below and enjoy!

Kim Brooks, author of, How To Date and Stay Saved, and, He's Fine...But is He Saved? www.kimontheweb.com

Do You Love AND Trust Him?

It’s possible to be in a relationship with someone and love him, but not trust him.  Especially if that trust has been violated, such as in the case of adultery within a marriage or even a dating relationship where someone has not been totally honest in certain situations.

A lot of times, when it comes to people, trust has to be earned.  And in the case of an affair, trust has to be restored.  Why?  Because people are imperfect, and people make mistakes.
However, I know a man who IS Perfect, and never makes mistakes, and His name is Jesus.  This man is the author of love, the author and finisher of our faith, He’s all that and more,  however in knowing all this, how many of us can truly say that we both love AND trust this man?

God has not given you any reason to doubt His love or faithfulness towards you.  He is not a man that He should lie.  He can’t lie, because satan is the author of lies but God is the founder of truth.

His love is unconditional and unwavering, so why is it that many of us, singles, say we love God with our lives, and even our lifestyles, but when it comes to trusting God to send us the mate that He has for us we sometimes lose faith, lose hope, or doubt that it will ever happen for us?

One minute we’re up, praising God and getting our shout on about how good He is and how Boaz is right around the corner, and the next minute we’re down, wondering when and if it’ll ever really happen for us.

God said He will give you the desires of your heart, and a lot of time a desire to marry has been placed in your heart by God.  He said all His promises are yea and in him amen, and He promised that you and your seed will be blessed.  God has not left you out of the equation, and He sees your tears and knows your heart.  You just have to hold on, trust God and keep believing and don’t give up hope that there is a man out there for you.

So I want to encourage you today to not just love God, but also trust Him.  Why, because He’s God, He’s Perfect, and His Word is true.  Be consistent and steadfast in your faith, and stay built up by the Word of God so as to not give the enemy any room to cause doubt, and know that I love you with the love of the Lord as we run this race together.

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6

Other Scripture References:
2 Corinthians 1:20
Numbers 23:19
1 Corinthians 15:58
Psalm 37:4

Kim Brooks, author of, How To Date and Stay Saved, and, He's Fine...But is He Saved? www.kimontheweb.com

Strength to Wait

As single Christians, it is so important that we not grow weary while waiting.
Some of you have been believing God for years or even decades for a mate and
you’re wondering, “Where’s my mate, Lord?” and, “What happened?” You may have
grown frustrated, blamed yourself, blamed others, or even blamed God for not
sending you your Boaz like yesterday. You may have gone from relationship,
to relationship, disappointment to disappointment, only to find yourself in the
same position -- waiting.

While you’re waiting for the manifestation, it is imperative that you
don’t give up. Don’t give up hope. The Word tells us in Romans 8:25,
“But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.”
Continue to wait on the Lord and be of good courage. If God has assured
you in your private prayer time that you will be married one day -- allow
Him to order your steps while knowing and believing that you WILL be
married one day.

Don’t grow weary in well doing for in due season you shall reap. Everyone’s due
season is different, so while waiting, don’t compare yourselves to others. Just
continue to run your race with God’s grace, knowing that all the promises of God in Him
are yea, and in Him Amen (2 Cor. 1:20). The Word also reminds us, “But they that
wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as
eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”
(Isaiah 40:31) The Word, “wait” in this passage of Scripture means to expect,
to look, patiently, tarry, wait for. The word, “renew” means to exchange, instead of.
And the word, “strength” means to be firm, vigor, ability, force, might, power.
So during this season of waiting, exchange your weakness or faint heart for His
strength, might, power and ability. God is able to do exceeding, abundantly above
all you can ever ask or think (Eph. 3:20), as long as you keep the faith and remain strong
while waiting.

Know that I love you, but God loves you more!

Kim Brooks, author of, How To Date and Stay Saved, and, He's Fine...But is He Saved? www.kimontheweb.com